An Asian Christian woman living in London blogging about the everyday issues of religion

Thursday, 17 January 2013

Sex 365 Days In A Row

A couple who live in Colorado, USA, had sex for 365 days in a year. Yes, you read that right. A full year of full on coupling everyday. They did it because they believe that 'sex is the glue that keeps you together'. They have three children - yes, three children - but persevered through all the stresses and strains of normal living which usually just makes couples want to go to bed to SLEEP.

Charla and Brad Muller (pictured above) went on to write a book about the experience titled: '365 Nights: a Memoir of Intimacy'. Before any of you jump to conclusions about the sort of books that I read I must tell you that I have never read this book nor had I heard about it until an interview was published in The Guardian newspaper.

If you are wondering what the Christian angle is in this story well, Charla was inspired during a bible group session when reading Galatians 5:22 -23: 'But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control'. When I read that particular piece of scripture I normally think of jolly old fashioned greeting cards that used to carry beautiful poems written by Helen Steiner Rice. Sex? Nah!

The 'project' (their word) was Charla's gift to her husband on his 40th birthday on the premise that 'if intimacy everyday may not be a long-term sustainable model, neither is no intimacy at all'. They had reached a point in their lives where they, apparently, realised that intimate spontaneity was never going to be a factor so they opted for forced intimacy instead.

I think this couple are plain bonkers based on the simple premise that one can have too much of a good thing before the law of diminishing returns sets in. Also, intimacy comes from talking and sharing one's experiences and very few couples seem to realise that emotional intimacy is an important 'glue' too. Sex can even be the lazy option for intimacy.  Talking and listening demands far more of one's spirit especially if it demands compromise from one partner. 

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